I have come to realize that appearing successful, rich, kind, overachieving etc does not mean you are truly that. Because it is all too subjective and people making such observation only can make such remark based on what We choose to show them. It may not really be the case. We may not be as great as people think, and we will know it.
That is possibly why so many of us have the "imposter syndrome" — because we are obsessed with what others think of us. We want people to see us in a certain light, hence we portray ourselves in that certain way. But when people observed the portrayal and compliment us on that, we feel guilty and fraudulent.
We get anxious and worried that what if they found out we are not actually so, and that we don't live up to their expectations.
When we, however, take away our concern of what others think and would think, and we will realize that the "syndrome" is gone too.
Yes it is good to realize our achievements and the good in ourselves, but we must not just blindly gas ourselves up — we need to realize the root of our issue and resolve it from there. Never romanticize unhealthy mental behaviours. Having imposter syndrome is definitely not the healthiest thing to have and we have to uproot that.
Yes, we need to recognize our greatness, but it is important too to recognize our weakness — recognize it honestly — don't romanticize it, don't make excuses for it, don't justify it.
And perhaps then we will be happy and see more meaning in life.
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